Conversations... how to start, how to start?
"What the h*ll happened to you?"Probably not one of the best starters but not uncommon in our lives. Some people deliver the question with a little more grace than the one stated above. Others look and watch, some try to look and keep their watchful eye un-noticed, little kids are blunt but never rude! For the most part it's always noticed but hey we are almost 15 years into this and we are used to it.
What are we used to? What is our elephant in the room? My husband is blind. You maybe thinking that's not that noticeable and you're correct. He is not legally blind, totally blind. As he would describe it to the sighted population; envision the black night sky with the stars and take out the starlight. That black is all he sees, all of the time. He is also missing his right eye. That is really what makes us standout. Put the lack of an eye and total blindness together and there you have it folks, our elephant.
We haven't been "normal" since March of 2004. My husband, Jason had a 40lb IED (improvised explosive devise) go off 3 feet in front of him while on patrol in Iraq. Jason was retired from the Marine Corps roughly a year after his injuries. Now here we are almost 15 years later, living out the
Back to the blindness; I didn't mean to get sidetracked, I didn't want anyone to think I was ungrateful or here to mope. Due to Jason's injuries we are both stay at home parents and we are with each other 24/7. I am Jason's full time caregiver which means I'm here help him do whatever he cannot due to his blindness. Cooking, cleaning, finding something the kids moved, and so much more. Jason doesn't use a guide dog, we looked into one a while back but for our lives it was unrealistic. Instead we use sighted guide where we walk together when out of the house. There is so much more but that's another post.
We are in the process of raising our kids, pursuing family, connection and learning all the while. When new challenges arise we do our best to make adjustments and keep moving forward.
We may have this elephant but in all reality it is a great conversation starter. It allows us to open up our hearts and share our lives. The good, the bad, and the otherwise. This may not have been what we thought of life looking like 15 years ago but we always start here. We share our hearts, our stories, the lessons we've learned along the way and the miracles that have changed our lives. In fact we alway encourage people to ask! So ask away!